Love Marriages- Caste or Mindset?

People living rural life as well as urban life; usually like to stay with people who are similar to them. Here, the similarity is very subjective. Similarity can be based on class, economic status, standard of living or something like Caste, which has been practiced since years and has been passed on to generations. People staying in the same caste expect their children to do the same and also want their children to marry within the caste.

Most of the marriages are arranged and when it comes to love marriages, the couples have to go through overflowing resistance by the society and even by their parents. The more gaps between the castes, the more resistance has to be faced.

But do these caste systems really matter when it comes to ‘love’? People are judged on the basis of their prosperity in the class system rather than their capability.

 We have been used to new cultures and technologies very easily. We may consider the ‘Selfie culture’ or as simple as something like ‘a touch screen mobile phone’. But can’t we just understand the need of the society which is to treat everyone equally? Can’t we really take a stand against the teachings of these old generations trying to exaggerate inequality?

We are born as humans for the sake of humanity to share the bonds and not as castes to follow any kind of hierarchy. Elder people should not force to follow the same norms to the new young minds because ‘love’, which is supposed to be an angelic feeling, is suffering.

Parents have the moral right to restrict their children for their better future but they should look into the matter of love. But maybe, the problem is not just about the inequality in ‘castes’ or ‘communities’ or ‘religions’. Earlier generations oppose love marriages because they think that ‘how can our children choose a life partner by themselves without taking the needs of family into consideration?’ and here, the ‘caste’ has been kept in front of us as a reason, which is conditioning human minds to follow and pass on the caste structure. Now it’s time for all of us to think that, is this a problem of the caste or the mindset?

If to the heaven we all are equal, 
then why do we humans divide?

…to be continued

-Kalyani L.